A Life Well Lived

A Life Well Lived

The murder of Ermias Asghedom better known as Nipsey Hussle is heartbreaking. Devastating. But somehow it seems there’s this energy that it created. A shockwave that it sent not only through the whole country, but the world. The shockwave that it sent through me.

In a perfect world, we would have been able to get the message while he was still here, putting us on game as he had been for years. But life is this mystery and doesn’t always quite work the way we think it should.

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Navigating Toxicity and The Work

Navigating Toxicity and The Work

Watching the Season 3 finale of Insecure led me back to the thought I’d been having about toxicity vs. “the work,” of relationships and how do we know the difference?

“We had matching luggage and we put in the work.”

This statement was in response to Lawrence (Jay Ellis) telling his father (Harry Lennix III) that his parents relationship was “easy.” His father followed with the idea that we are a generation that doesn’t necessarily want to put in the work to have successful relationships.

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Good Girls and Cardi B

Good Girls and Cardi B

“Good girls do what they’re told.”

Cardi B sings on the SZA assisted “I Do.” And I have to say that I may have felt a little personally attacked on that line.

For most of my life I’ve been the good girl. Straight As, always striving to be the best and to get things right the first time as not to be corrected. And it’s part of the reason that someone like Cardi intrigues me so much.

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